Stefanie Phan-Thomas
is a transformational life coach, writer, artist and entrepreneur based in La Jolla, California.
I believe we’re all born with a unique mix of gifts—and the journey of life is really about remembering them. Every challenge, setback, or desire we face shapes us into who we’re meant to become.
What I’ve learned is this: the more we meet ourselves with compassion instead of pressure, the easier it becomes to let go of old patterns and step into the life we actually want.
My own path hasn’t been linear. I was raised to be the good girl—hardworking, humble, and self-sacrificing. But deep down, I always felt called to something more creative, expansive, and aligned.
It took years of unlearning: fears of being seen, of failing, of not being “qualified” enough to want what I wanted. However, through entrepreneurship, nervous system healing, and deep inner work, I found my way back to myself and built a life that truly reflects who I am.
Now, I guide other women through that same return.
To their truth, their voice, and their power.
The path I walk now is about honoring your desires, questioning the beliefs you’ve inherited, and choosing to live from alignment instead of obligation.
You don’t have to be anyone but yourself—and you don’t have to do it alone.
I grew up in an immigrant family, first in Australia and then in America, where hard work, self-sacrifice, and staying humble were highly valued. Like many women, I was taught that being “good” meant being quiet, helpful, and never too much.
I followed the rules, chased success, and built an impressive life by traditional standards, but deep down, I felt disconnected, dysregulated, and far from fulfilled.
I had mastered putting others’ needs before my own. I silenced my truth to avoid conflict, abandoned myself to be liked,
and ignored the signals my body was sending—until it couldn’t be ignored anymore.
The cost was chronic stress, emotional shutdown, and a body that no longer felt like a safe place to be.
It wasn’t until I hit emotional burnout that I realized: it’s not enough to achieve the life you want—you have to feel safe enough to hold it.
That’s when everything changed.
I stopped outsourcing my worth to results and started aligning my inner world with what I truly desired. Through nervous system work, somatic healing, and years of studying high-performance psychology, embodiment, and values-based design, I built a new framework for success. One that was sustainable, feminine, and fully mine.
Today, I guide high-achieving, growth-driven, deeply intentional women to regulate their nervous systems, realign their wealth across all areas of life, and finally feel safe receiving everything they’ve been calling in.
Spiritual abundance
Abundance—wealth and worldly luxuries—aren’t always embraced by the spiritual community. But, I believe that desire, pleasure and wanting more are not sins, but rather a portal to spiritual awakening. I live under an agreement with the divine that all of our desires given to us for a reason. I’m convinced that it's imperative that more money flows into the hands of spiritual people. My purpose is to wake people up to a spiritual path and inspire people to expeirence what’s possible when you have the audacity to dream.
family
The world I have co-created with my husband, Aaron, is my greatest joy. I am utterly grateful for our love, support and union. There is nothing more fulfilling in my life than the partnership I experience with this soul.
connection
I am devoted to connection with myself, the people in my life, and my career. I am deeply invested in knowing myself, loving my inner circle and enriching my community.
POSSIBILITY is ABUNDANCE
is A SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCE
is TRANSFORMATION
LET ME SHOW YOU YOUR POSSIBILITY
ABUNDANCE / SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCE / TRANSFORMATION
The Art of
Wanterluxe
An aesthete by heart and philosophical in nature, my expression through visual arts explores the concepts of transparency, family heritage, beauty, craftsmanship, and culture.
In 2014 I created an acrylic clutch handbag line that honors my husband’s family heritage of acrylic manufacturing. My all-acrylic clutch handbags have become my canvas. Each one is handmade by my father-in-law and is hand painted or adorned by me. The one-of-a-kind couture collectables are available through commission.
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